Have you hugged yourself today? That’s a serious question. Have you? Have you given yourself a pat on the back just for being you? Have you told yourself you are doing okay? Have you said, “I think you are special?” No? Up until I started to write this article I hadn’t either.
I want you to try it with me right now. Wrap your arms around your chest and give yourself a hug. Say to yourself, “I love you. I’m sorry if I’ve forgotten to tell you that lately. I’m going to take care of you! I love you!”
How did that feel? (For those of you that didn’t do it please go back and try it. No one has to see you doing it. Just play along.) For me it felt a little silly but it also felt really good. Everyone needs hugs and most of us don’t get enough of them. The average human being has more negative thoughts about him or herself than good thoughts. We look at how we can improve, what we don’t have, where we fall short. We hear people saying, “You have to love yourself” and in our heads we think this sounds like a good idea but we just don’t know exactly how to love ourselves when we are spending so much time beating ourselves up. We look for other people or things to show us love. Seeing someone look at you with eyes of love certainly warms your heart and helps you to know you are okay.
Years ago on Oprah, I heard Maya Angelou say a child needs his or her parent’s eyes to light up when that child walks into the room. I think it goes beyond children we all need to know that we are seen as we are and loved. The problem is you can’t force anyone to do this for you. But you can do it for yourself. You can see yourself as you are right now in this moment; give yourself a hug and say, “I love you. We are in this together! We are okay!”
It may seem weird to talk about yourself in the plural “we”. But think about it. Have you ever said, “a part of me really wants to do this and another part is terrified that I’m not up for the challenge?” Who are those parts? They all need love.
Valentine’s Day is over and I hope you had someone acknowledge how special you are. If you didn’t please feel my virtual hug coming through this blog. Imagine seeing my eyes light up when you arrived at this page, so happy to see you here. I am so blessed each time someone finds this blog. You are special and lovable.
Remember though, we create our own reality. If we want more love in our world, we can give ourselves more hugs and then remember to let our eyes light up when we see others to remind them that they, too, are lovable and special. We can share heartfelt hugs. By taking time to embody love for yourself in that hug and then sharing that love with those you come in contact with, you are shifting the energy of the world. A hug is a simple way to start.
So have you hugged yourself today? Come on! Give it a try and let me know how it feels.