I was talking with a client who finally felt like she had a rhythm going with her projects and then had one of those weeks where life conspired to make sure she couldn’t follow the routine she had set. She was upset, “I was so in the flow! I thought I had it!” she told me. I smiled because I totally understood. In the four years that I worked on my book, there were amazing moments of flow, synchronicity and support and there were also many times where I struggled for the right word or I walked away for weeks at a time because things just weren’t happening.
When we’ve caught the wave of flow, we think, “At last! I’ve got it!” And perhaps part us feels we will never have to struggle again. It is like thinking that life involves getting some settings right and then never having to adjust them again, like a radio pre-set button for your favorite radio station in the car. It is an amazing feeling to be in the flow and it is disheartening when all that wonderful energy seems to suddenly disappear and we can’t find the KFLO station preset. Nothing we do seems to bring the flow back.
But the problem isn’t that we are out of the flow is it that we are judging ourselves and the actual experience of life. The expectation that we can find that preset button and there is something wrong with us if we can’t at the moment is what gets us in trouble.
Sometimes we catch the wave and other times we struggle to stay afloat and both of those times are equally a part of the creative process and the greater experience of life.
I would hazard a guess that the people who experience the most flow are the ones who are also willing to show up when things aren’t flowing—the ones who are willing to be uncomfortable, cranky and out of sorts and still push through or are tenacious enough to keep coming back and begin again.
What do you think?