Thanks for commenting. I learned when I was managing employees at the law firm that giving correction or feedback is an artform. And often no matter how hard you try to make it helpful or constructive many of us are wired to first be defensive or hurt by the comments, even when they come from the best of intentions. I love The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book) by Don Miguel Ruiz. One of the agreements is to not take anythng personally. That is a challenge for most of us but I find it helps when we realize that badly delivered feedback is more a function of the discomfort of the person giving the feedback than anything we did or deserve.

Have a great day!

Carol

Granted there is such a thing as constructive criticism which is essential to developing one’s self. But for there also exists that resentful criticism. And it’s this kind of criticism that one needs to shy away from.

And for those subjected to it, you’ve provided some excellent advice. And that is to say, “I need time to process what you are telling me before I can respond.”

Best,
Ricardo Bueno

Wow. That is a powerful sentence.

I think you thought Sadie has fleas. Thanks for being concerned. I use Frontline and we aren’t having a flea problem. No our problem is more mundane–just a couple of ordinary house flies flying around the house. She hates them! But they aren’t even really flying around her they are just in the house! She gets so distressed. I think she feels she’s failing because she can’t catch them. Thank goodness the problem with go away on its own once the weather cools down.

Carol

The mision for me is to find the loveable parts of myself and others around me everyday.

Yes we do things that are not of the highest good and there are many times we fall short but I don’t believe that makes us any less loveable. In fact, I believe as we acknowledge our humanness and vulnerabilities we become more loveable not less. Don’t know if that makes sense or not.